an essay in de-evolution.
Is romance something we created as humans? what is it exactly? and where did it go?
We separate ourselves from the rest animal kingdom with so many different things, our lives are all different, we lead them the way we want to lead them (for the most part) We build, destroy, love, hate, survive, we're artistic, we're smart, there's so much complexity to being human, it's fascinating. We evolved into something that can do anything, it's fantastic. Somewhere along the evolutionary chain we found love, and not in a way like a parent loves a child, not wild love, we with words, evolved feelings, it's something I believe we hold over every other creature, and not denying real love in other animals in this kingdom, but for the most part we reign supreme on this.
There was a time when romance meant something, when people shared an interest in one another, and they wanted to share something deep with each other, take the time, put in the effort for a payoff that could last them a lifetime, or it might not, but it seems more-so in the past this was something that was a priority, maybe it wouldn't last a lifetime, but the idea was still there. Where in our history did we lose this? It seems more and more now, people are so fast paced, needing the next best thing in every day life, faster computers, phones, better cars, new this, new that, that when something new comes out it's already old, because something better has already replaced it, has this ADD culture caused the death of romance? have we lost track of what's good in this world and replaced it with possessions? things we can buy and own, so we work harder, work work work work work work work all the time to make money to buy the newest, latest, greatest thing so we can have the power, with power comes sex, now, for some reason, we've created this drive-thru romance, where there is no idea of lasting power, we're concerned with sex, and sex alone.
Sex.
A. The media portrays sex to us with everything, it's been happening for so long, those who have everything, have sex the most, it sells everything, sex runs our society. Sex is not romance, sex is a quick fix, makes people feel good for a certain amount of time, it's almost like we have fuel tanks and when they start to run low we have to fill them by having sex, doesn't matter who, it just NEEDS to happen, not to procreate or find anything lasting, just to do it, because it's ingrained in our brains that we need it.
B. Sex is lazy, we've become so concerned with everything new and great that we've resorted to just finding sex as fast as we can to "fill our tanks" and get it over with. It's such a half-assed meaningless portrayal of lazy romance, it's pathetic.
C. The male ego is ridiculous, being a male myself I never understood the conquest side of sex, men who like to put notches on their belt for lack of a better example, and then bragging about it, "oh I slept with that girl," does this give some sort of sense of pride? thinking about it like that makes it seem foolish and silly, what does it at all accomplish? sleeping with X amount of people makes you seem more interesting to your peers? and for some reason, taking the time to be creative, trying out romance, wooing a partner, having interesting fun with them before the sex isn't interesting to peers? where did this mentality come from? feeling a need for someONE left and somehow feeling a need for someTHING replaced it.
D. As far as women have come, fighting for rights and equality, the male ego has just taken it one step further, and now women have a voice, more rights, better pay, more equality, but are now looked at more as objects than ever, and by letting the male ego take over, and be lazy to just screw for one night so a notch can be put into their belt, your equality and rights in my eyes go right out the window, it makes no sense to me why just let males play their cards, get what they want, and then let them go. Not saying all women are innocent in this, but society has set up these standards that it's OK for this to happen, and when a female tries to keep the flame going after a male has had his way, she's considered "crazy." Well maybe they are crazy, but who gave them that state of mind? and who gets away with it? Males do on both accounts, and with their inflated ego's and still holding all the power, it's accepted as the "norm"
E. Hearing a male brag and explain to his peers "I had sex with that girl," seems comical to me in a sense that I would hold a higher respect for a person if the sentence were, "that is the girl that I continue to have sex with." if that makes any sense at all, if you find yourself needing to have sex with someone, why is it impressive to just do it once, and not continue and pursue something with it? why is it OK and not just impressive, it's degrading on both genders, going in to play the whole friends with benefits thing, just to fill that tank, people say it's emotionless, but to say sex is emotionless is to put us at a carnal, wild level, bringing us back so many evolutionary years and everything that is fantastic in this world now just seems meaningless, as if nothing were accomplished, because after all of this we have built in this world, we're no better than animals because we can't function our emotions that we created, which are far more important than this months model of this or that item, we created feelings and emotions that have now de-evolved into basic primal wild instincts, and we can't even get that right, at least with the animals, they do it to procreate, we do it because we own this and that to show our worth. Self worth is over-rated if that is the case.
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